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So I read another book this weekend.  I’m a nerd what can I say.  I had really mixed feelings before opening it up because I have had so many people tell me about  their positive/negative experiences reading it.  I decided to read it with an open mind realizing I could take and leave from it whatever I felt was necessary.

On a positive note I loved the underlying theme of the book.  Reaching a child’s heart to help transform their behavior vs. transforming the behavior and trying to make them into someone they aren’t and may not ever be.    I like the idea’s of the biblical instruction given for helping to shape a child and even the vital essentials necessary for discipline with use of communication and physical “spanking”.  It makes a whole lot of sense to me.  Most importantly that it’s biblical.

What seemed to rub me the wrong way was the manner in which the biblical instruction is to be given at various stages.  Quoting scriptures to a small child which are IMPOSSIBLE for him to understand at the time.  Yes scripture is an excellent tool for discipline and instruction.  On the flipside, I don’t believe in quoting scripture to a child he is not even able to understand.  I believe the time will come when it will be appropriate but that is for the parent to decide.

Maybe I am the weird one.  Maybe I should tell Caiden at 2 1/2 and Jordan at 1 that their heart was an abomination from the womb and that is why they are wicked and commit sins.  But the truth is I won’t.  I have seen too many people throwing scripture at their small children and I can’t properly express how that makes me feel without possibly offending someone.  And for that, I will just say I disagree with it and I choose not to do that for now.

Caiden you disobeyed Mommy.  By disobeying mommy you have disobeyed God.  For that you will get spanked.

NOT:  Caiden, your heart is desperately wicked, that is why you have these selfish tendencies to do what you want and not what mommy wants.  You disobeyed mommy, and by doing so you have disobeyed God.  For that you will get spanked. (that is more along the lines of what the book instructs)

I choose the first scenario for my 2 year old thank you very much =)

I will one day tell my children the wickedness of their hearts, but at a time when it is appropriate and they are at an age of reasoning and understanding.  Until then, I will aim and strive to help mold the hearts of my children in a way that glorifies God.  As time passes, and circumstances change.  So will my instruction.

Overall, great book in my opinion. 

So I was very “in general” with my blog yesterday about the subject mentioned.   I have however taken some time to explain in somewhat complete detail why I truly feel the way I do.  Now just for a matter of fact, I wanted to forewarn everyone that when I mention things in this book, it is not something that brainwashed me but simply reaffirmed convictions I have had long ago.  With that being said, enjoy =)  Read at your own risk. 

Not only have non Christian mothers and fathers lost their natural affection for children, but it has crept into our churches as well.  Why is it that we as Christians cannot trust God to pay us well for the board and lodging of all the little ones He has committed to our charge to bring up for Him?

Psalm 127 reads:

Children are the Lord’s good gift. Rich payment are men’s sons.  The sons of youth like arrows are In hands of mighty ones.  Who hath his quiver filled with these Oh happy shall he be.  When foes they (the whole family) greet within the gate they shall from shame be free.

Psalm 128 reads:

Blessed the man who fears Jehovah and who walks in all His ways.  Thou shalt eat of thy hand’s labor and be prospered all thy days.  Like a vine with fruit abounding in thy house thy wife is found and like olive plants thy children compassing thy table round. 

The love of children that young mothers are supposed to be trained in is phileo love, brotherly love, fondness, natural affection, liking, friendship.  It makes me feel special that God has trusted me to nurture and protect the tiny morsel of helpless humanity found in a child.  As a baby grows, a nurturing mother shares the excitement of the first wobbly steps.  She thrills to those baby lips calling, “Mama.”  A downy head pillowed on her shoulder; little fingers trustingly curled round her thumb; happy giggles when she tickles her toddler- What queen can buy these pleasures?  As a child develops a mother discovers a new friend.  More and more the personality emerges and each new revelation is a surprise!  Their thoughtful questions about heaven and hell, sin and salvation, duty to God and neighbor make you feel so anxious and proud for your baby Christians.  Seeing the young Christian begin to flex his or her wings brings a surge of gratitude to God for allowing you to bring forth such a special person into the world. 

Loving our children means just enjoying them and not fretting about the time and energy it takes to serve them.  Children are fun for those tuned in to God’s values.

If children are a blessing, why don’t we want to have them?  Can you think of any other blessing that Christians moan about and complain about and do their best to refuse?  A blessing is something you want to have.  If the Bible says children are a blessing (and it does) but we don’t see it that way, the fault lies in us.

I’m not sure what besides our biological difference God could have had in mind when he said that his image in man is male and female-especially since the word for female comes from the Greek root as “to breastfeed.”  The Bible teaches that childbearing is a wife’s basic role.  1 timothy 2:15 “but a women will be kept safe through childbirth, if they continue in faith, love and holiness with propriety.”  It easier translates “women will be saved through childbearing.”  NIV translates it as “childbirth.”  Paul has just finished giving Timothy instructions about how men should pray and how women who profess to worship God should dress.  Next Paul said women should learn quietly and submissively, not be teachers in the church.  The next logical question would be, “Well then, what can women do for God if they are not supposed to teach?”  Paul says that by persevering in our God-given role-childbearing-with a godly attitude, we will be saved.  “Childbearing” sums up all our special biological and domestic functions.  This is the exact same grammatical construction as Paul’s advice to Timothy that Timothy should persevere in his life and doctrine, “because if you do, you will save both yourself and your hearers” (1tim 4:16)  Timothy’s particular path to heavenly glory was his preaching and example.  Ours is homeworking,  all revolving around our role of childbearing.  It symbolizes our role just as teaching symbolizes Timothy’s role.  Preaching was Timothy’s role, and persevering in his calling he would be saved.  In just the same way, having babies and raising them is our role, and we show we belong to God by persevering in it. 

Another passage speaks of childbearing as a wife’s calling.  1tim 5:14  So I counsel younger widows to marry, to have children, to manage their homes and to give the enemy no opportunity to slander.  People like to dismiss this as talking just to widows.  Paul is not telling widows they are a special class of wives who have to operate by different rules.  He is telling them to settle down, marry, and behave as normal wives, instead of abusing their unmarried state to become drones and gadabouts. Having babies is a Christian wife’s calling, whether first-time bride or remarried widow.

Loving our children, then, means first of all wanting to have babies.  Children are a blessing, and God’s blessings can never go out of style.

The real reason couples are so attracted to family planning has nothing to do with the Bible.  It has to do with fear.  We’re afraid that we can’t afford a large family.  We’re afraid that we wouldn’t be able to control so many children.  Some of us fear that without family planning we would have to give up cherished parts of our present lifestyle.  Some of these fears are legitimate and some are not.

We are the richest people in history, yet the most fearful about the costs of child-rearing.  Perhaps it’s because we don’t realize how superfatted our lifestyles are, and how little our children really need in order to grow up happy, healthy and godly.  Does a boy really need a room of his own, summer camp, Montessori pre-school, designer clothes, a 10 ft. stack of cd’s, and all other goodies the anointed now deem essential for everyone else’s children?  In one word, no.  Kids survive on PB sandwiches as well as they do on steak (some might say better).  Wearing hand-me down clothes is not the ultimate social scandal.  Food, clothes, shelter and love are enough to make any Christian content (1tim 6:8) even a kid.

Why don’t we hear about the medical dangers of NOT having children?  I asked my OB what my chances were of getting cancer from having babies, and he told me there was no need to worry.  The women he sees with cancer of the uterus are women who never had any babies.  Apparently God meant for women to have babies, and when we don’t do so on a regular basis, it can cause problems.

R.V. Short pointed out that women now on average ovulate 12-13 times a year (12-13periods a year basically) for the most of their adult life.  The problems women have with periods may indicate that we are doing too much of it, the fact that it can be alleviated with progesterone (a hormone that sustains pregnancy) seems to bear out Short’s hypothesis.  There are signs that having a lot of periods produces stress upon the organism, and particularly upon certain parts of it such as the breast, which may go through massive changes associated with the cycle for more than ten, and often 20 yrs.  Some of the diseases associated with low birth rate, for ex: breast cancer might be caused by some such mechanism. (basically by being pregnant and nursing, we don’t have 13 periods a year, and by continuing to bear children we refrain from having periods 13 times a year to maybe having them 20 times in a 5 or 10 year period).

My body is not my own, to do with as I please; it belongs to God.  If he says, “women shall be saved through childbearing’ (1 tim 2:15), and “Sons are a heritage from the Lord, children a reward from Him…Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them: (ps 127:3,5) and “Your sons will be like olive shoots around your table.  Thus is the man blessed who fears the Lord” (ps. 128:3,4), why should you and I not “honor God with your body” by having babies? (1 cor 6:20)

God doesn’t dispense His blessing automatically.  In bible times, when nobody used any birth control method (except Onan), Sarah had only one child.  Rachel 2. Rebekah 2.  Zebedee’s wife had only 2 sons, Noah had only 3 and he lived to be 950yrs old.  Take time to examine the genealogies, and you will find that really big families are the exception not the rule.  Population expert James Weber informs us that the average brith rate in developed countries (usa) is 2-3 children per family and in developing countries  only 5-6 instead of dozens or so that you would expect.  The population growth rate as been small and at a slow rate.  This is as we should expect, since God controls who gets what blessing.  It takes more than a desire to reproduce for a nation or a family to get God’s blessing.  Nor does the Lord just drop 20 children on a Christian couple.  And if he did give you 20, not only would the process happen over a very long period of time, during which the older ones would grow up and leave, but the Lord would supply all you need to raise them as well.  The Lord doesn’t give you a little lamb without first giving you a pasture. 

Christians use 2 methods to plan the family.  Spacing and limiting family size.  Both have one thing in common: they make a cutoff point on how many blessings a family is willing to accept.  Can any one find a single bible verse that says Christians should refuse Gods blessings?  Children are an unqualified blessing, according to the Bible.  But the only way the world is ever going to know this is to see Christian couples who are willing to have and enjoy large families.

Limiting as a planning method separates sex from reproduction.  It produces the same mental attitude as a “child-free” couple has, since once the desire amount of children has been reached there is some call for sterilization and the same unwillingness to conceive. 

Spacing has the same effects as limiting, by a slightly different route.  Spacing is the attempt to usurp God’s sovereignty by self-crafting one’s family.  By discarding month after month, our opportunities for reproduction, we are not only limiting our family size but also limiting God’s opportunities to choose the best children for us.  God can, of course override our attempts at birth control.  But he much prefers to cooperate with us, and does not usually choose to beat us over the head with unwanted blessings.

Ps 127, which tells us children are a heritage and reward from the Lord also warns us that “unless the Lord builds the house, its builders labor in vain.”   Scripturally, your “house” is your family.  The past 2 generations have been trying to build their families themselves, consulting their own goals, desires and convenience-and you see the results.

Family planning is the mother of abortion.  A generation had to be indoctrinated in the ideal of planning children around personal convenience before abortion could become popular.

There is an alternative to scheming and plotting how many babies to have and when to have them.  It can be summed up in 3 words: trust and obey.  If God is willing to plan my family for me (and we Christians do believe that God loves us and has a wonderful plan for our lives) then why should I muddle up his plan with my ideas?  Only God knows the future.  Only he knows how much money we will have next year, or when I will reach menopause, or when his Kingdom will desperately need the unique talents of my yet-to-be-conceived so or daughter.  Why not leave the driving to Him?

According to the Bible nobody’s present circumstances are an infallible guide to their situation next year, or even tomorrow. (jas 4:13-16)

In countries where women have no fear of conceiving, the lifetime avg for children per family is only 5-6.  My experience with catholics in my neighborhood prove this.  Most had 4-7.  Nobody had 20 or 30.  If you let God plan your family, nobody can say exactly what his plan will be—except that the blessing of an extremely large family is rare, like all special blessings.

As older children mature they will be able to help with the younger ones and take a lot of the housework off your hands.  Soon the older ones will marry; so you cant expect to have dozens of children in the house at one time even if you had a super large family.  While other women are having hot flashes and growing moustaches and experiencing all the delightful effects of early menopause, you will sail serenely along with your youthful complexion (although maybe not youthful waistline).  While other women are smitten by empty nest syndrome and midlife crisis and all those other modern ailments affecting women whose span of motherhood only lasts to age 40, you will still have little ones who need you.  When you finally start slowing down, the last will be grown, and you will be a real expert on mothering, able to lend your invaluable help with your grandchildren and the children of the younger women in the church.

It is foolish to assume that because I am fertile today I will be tomorrow.  We can’t coung on the blessing of fertility lasting forever.  I believe that once we start looking more realistically at our fertility, seeing it as a fragile and special blessing which many will never have and which everyone eventually loses, we will have a higher respect for babies.

If I don’t want a baby today, but do tomorrow, I may find when tomorrow comes that I have already missed my only chance. 

Okay yeah so I don’t need to tell you that Eddy isn’t completely on board with this, but if he is a christian which I know he is than there is no way that the Holy Spirit will not eventually convict his heart in this area.  So for those of you who read this far into my blog, pray with me for my husband please.  And if you don’t agree with it, that is fine too.  Afterall, you can’t really argue with scripture.

Well it has been a crazy weekend for me.  I don’t really know why but here I am monday morning and I am wiped out!  I felt like talking about babies this morning because I read an interesting book over the weekend.  It was called A Way Home by Mary Pride.  Now the majority of the book is about disecting the verses in Titus 2 about how we should behave as wives and mothers etc.  but it is also about how jacked up the feminist movement has moved christians, or should I say society as a whole away from what God originally intended for us to do as women.  It was explaining that the greek word for female meant “to suckle, nurse, or to breastfeed”  and it was pointing out the scripture where it says “and women will be saved through childbearing” which really translated childbirth.  It pretty much explained that that is what our purpose is as far as why we are created.  Yes to be fruitful and multiply I know that is such a sensitive subject with women.  Because we so badly want to control that area of our lives because who wants 20 children? =)  Well the Lord used this women’s words to explain things to me and it’s really put everything in a new light for me.  Not to really get into it, I just wanted to tell you what the few chapters on “childbearing” were titled.  1. God’s most unwanted blessing 2. Who’s afraid of the Big bad baby? 3. Family Banning and Planned Barrenhood.  Now I must tell you I was in tears through these chapters because of how broken I was over the subject.  I am not saying I want to be the mother of millions.  But for once, every fear I have ever had about my own 2 children, and those that I may or may not have …are completely gone.  Now Im sure you are asking yourself what the heck am I talking about, but I am referring to things such as money, time, clothes, food, vacations, what kind of car we would drive, how small our house would in aspect to our family size, emotional/physical problems, my body getting jacked up etc etc.  You know for once I am realizing how much that doesn’t matter.  I didn’t come from what I would call a large family, but I did have 3 siblings.  We were poor, ate crappy food, never had vacations but you know what?  I had a lot more fun as a child than a lot of 2 children families.  Except for some people because they were rich and had fun vacations and parties etc.  But what I learned through this was that I really feel convicted about not being the one who decides when I start/stop trying for a baby.  No matter when they come, or how many I would have God says they are a blessing.  Anybody who doesn’t have the desire to be a mother is being selfish.  And I know that hits home with some friends of mine, but the truth of the matter is that this is what God intended for us to do.  On top of many other commands I might add.  But as far as mothering goes, that is what im referring to.  God doesn’t give everyone 20 kids who decides to let Him choose their family size.  Look at different examples in the bible.  Some had only 2 or 3 and some had 15.  But God decided how many each had not the women.  Do you think Eve, Sarah, Rachel, and everyone else were “counting the days” and surely they weren’t doing BBT charting or checking their CM.  I just added that in on my own that wasn’t anything I read lol  Anyway, I am just finally at a point where I am okay if I only have my 2 kids, and if I have more than great.  The more the merrier as far as I’m concerned.  I know Eddy is officially in his brain done having kids but quite honestly I don’t care.  The Lord will do what he wants, and if it is in His will for Eddy to want more, than he will.  And I am okay with that for once.  I did tell Eddy this weekend though that the Lord had really assured me we were having more, I didn’t know a number but atleast one more.  It was funny though because he didn’t really seem to care.  So the great news is, I will have another baby and I just don’t know when.

Now for the exciting part of my weekend.  This is a story about AF and my cycle that is typically 32-34 days long.  Last month it was a 34 day cycle.  Friday was day 34 and there was nothing.  Yesterday on day 36 I took a pregnancy test to rule out pregnancy because I was getting really late.  Even now on day 37…NOTHING.  Now the test was negative so don’t get too excited for me.  But what happened when I took the test is what is amazing.  You see if I took that test a week ago, I would have been scared out of my britches no lie.  But as I took it, I was hoping it was positive, but not caring if it was negative.  That is what I told myself.  Amazingly that is what happened, it was negative and I didn’t care.  It would seem that I would have been really depressed but I wasn’t.  It did nothing but make me thank the Lord for the 2 children I have now and just pray that He would bless me when He sees best suited.  And now isn’t the time.

We are currently doing the Family Banning method and I will start BBT charting once AF arrives.  I promised Eddy I would never trick him, and the truth is I won’t.  I can only hope and pray the Lord intercedes and if He doesn’t then that is okay too.

Anyway, just wanted to share with everyone =)

What a fun day we had yesterday!!  It was crazy right from the second Caiden woke up.  I posted a lot of videos so if you want to go check them out here are the links:

The first link is just a 10minute video of Caiden peeling an egg the night before, it was just cute and I like to record him doing things so he can rewatch them on the computer for entertainment.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cwz9k8l2rM0

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=60kd4M_Qke0

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Q_azOKl0Lo

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YkA88Ws5FYI

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eO9FEmGTlDk

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TdEEzj2hBuU

 So the videos explain what we did at the house that morning.  Baskets, egg hunt, breakfast, naps and so forth.  At 1 p.m. we met up at Ed Austin Park aka The Dunes or PAL.  We met Eddy’s parents, his two sisters families, and also another extended family.  We had lunch, played football, got baskets from nanny and then had an egg hunt.  Once again if you want to see pictures of this event check out my myspace, here is a link:

http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewPicture&friendID=109689674&albumId=1427981

There is one really crazy thing that happened at the picnic though.  I will tell you the short version because if I go into much detail I will get HIGHLY ticked off again.  Caiden told me he had to potty, so we headed to the bathrooms.  While waiting, I over hear 3 kids talking about stealing candy out of a kids basket on the playground.  These kids were probably 7, 9, and 11.  I looked at them and said, you shouldn’t be stealing people’s candy that isn’t nice.  Then I gave a smirk just to let them know I wasn’t mad or being angry.  As I walk into the bathroom and I am holding Caiden over the toilet I hear the door whip open and then BAM!!  I feel something hit my head that is wet.  To my surprise these bratty kids threw a water balloon at my head.  YES!!  That’s right I got pegged in the head with a water balloon by a 10 year old!  Thankfully for them it did not bust on me, but did get me slightly wet.  Did I mention it hit my head?  Yeah…Well anyway I follow the kid and demand him to show me his parents.  As I tell the parents what happen, instead of them getting angry or inplementing any sort of discipline, this is what the mom said, “You guys, that isn’t nice!  You shouldn’t throw water balloons at people you don’t know!”  And with that being said, I simply walked away.  No matter kids act the way they do, because their parents don’t give a crap and they know it.

I wanna hear someone beat that story….

Well I have a few thoughts for today.  First right now I feel really gross, like I need a bath.  What’s funny though is that I am clean.  Once again I am getting sick, this time with a cold.  My baby has fevers too.  I am supposed to go to a birthday party for a 2 year old in about an hour and I feel like doing nothing but taking a hot bath and crawling in bed.  Despite my personal ailments, I really have nothing to complain about.  The Lord has continued to heal me after my surgery and I feel like im back to normal for the most part.  I still can’t run or work out yet but that will follow shortly.  Besides, not like I can do that sick anyway =) 

So I guess approximately 3:00p.m. marks the time Jesus was nailed to the cross.  With that in mind, how can my day not be good?  Despite whatever the Lord is doing with me and my family health wise, I can still bask in the Glory of all Christ has done for me in my life as a whole.  It makes everything seem so comical around me.  My health, my kids health, my economical status, my emotional problems, my spiritual problems and anything that may fall in between.  I hope today I can focus on the importance of today, and this weekend and not on myself.  I’ve really been trying to get up at 6a.m. so I can “beat my family up.”  Not in a literal sense, but basically beat them up out of bed and prepare my heart for the day.  Lord knows I need it!  I need more time to pray and read.  It is so hard though because I feel like I really need to sleep.  Being sick recently and currently I do however stay in bed to sleep.  Not because im lazy but I know I need to get better.  I have even told the Lord, as soon as I get better I will get up I promise.  My first excuse was my surgery, then Caiden getting me up with his salmonella issue, then the barfing thing with everyone and now a cold.  I hope he is just testing me to make sure I am serious because I really am.  Feel free to hold me to it.

I guess it is going to be a Good friday afterall.  With the Lord in control there really is nothing to worry about afterall.  He will supply me the strength I need to get through today.  He has every other time =)

Well I am writing this blog today because I had something exciting happen to me last night.  I wish I were here sharing with you all that I was pregnant, but unfortunately I am not.  It is almost that exciting though.

Some of you may know how Eddy feels about our childbearing years, and that in his brain they are officially over.  Ever since Jordan has been about 9 months old I go back and forth with whether or not I think we are done.  After Eddy drilling in my brain we were done for so many months, I convinced myself we were.  Then slowly as people starting having babies, getting pregnant again, and as my baby slowly became a big girl..I felt sick.   Roughly around February I have started praying that Eddy would either want to have another baby, or the Lord would take my desire away.  I keep trying to convince myself why having another baby would be so horrible but nothing is bad enough to completely take that desire away.  As a matter of fact, the desire gets stronger each passing week.

Well last week while in bed Eddy started to ask me questions along the lines of “What do you think we would have next if we had another one?  Where would we put them to sleep to let them cry without waking anybody up?” yadda ya…. Well then saturday he said, Man Jordan makes me want to have another baby.  And then last night at dinner he was at a friends house who has 8 kids and he said to me “being over there makes me want to have another kid”.  I gave him a look and he said he was going to pray about it.  I dont want to get too excited because that isnt a for sure thing but Im banking on the idea that we arent on birth control and I hope and pray one month he is just in that “i want a kid mood” and it happens.  So for all of you reading this please pray for me that I dont get over excited, and most of all that we do let God control this situation until Eddy and I are for sure certain we are ready to be done.  I dont know what is wrong, its like having babies is an addiction or something.  And why?  Its hard, painful and your body gets all jacked up.  Yet I still want to do it again. 

I did tell him this morning though that the sooner the better because I want all the babies close.  Maybe he will think about it a lot today and tell me he is ready =)  But I just ovulated so it would be a while and he might change his mind again..Grrr.

Well some of you may or may not know how I came to love and adore the Babywise series by Ezzo.  I originally thought the idea was cruel and hideous and didn’t practice it with Caiden.  As I read the first chapter of this book on how to be “babywise” they gave a clear distinction between 2 babies.  One that was bad because parents used the attachment parenthing style and the second who was good because their parents were babywise.  The bad child fit Caiden in every description not lacking in one area.  I knew then I needed to get babywise right away for Jordan lol. 

I began instituting babywise when Jordan was just 8wks old, and as the book promised by 12wks she was sleeping a solid 11-12hours at night with no feedings.  I have shared my ideas in this book with a ton of people, and have listened to many success stories.  This book is also titled Raising Children Gods Way.  It is the same book word for word except it has scripture to supposedly back it up.  I havent read that version so I don’t know if its legit or not.

The other day a friend told me there was much controversy over the book.  Apparently parents across the nation were starving their children in order to follow the rules of babywise.  Basically only feed your kid every 4 hrs and if they dont eat, then they starve until the next feeding until they learn to get on schedule.  Now let me just give some input here.  That is absurd.  You see while I followed the rules STRICTLY with Jordan, I also knew I wasnt producing enough milk for her to last 4hrs, so instead we nursed every 2hours.  But still went by every rule in the book.  We just changed the feeding schedule to adapt to her needs.  People you need to be in tune with your baby and know whether or not you are sufficing them in that area.   Apparently there have been children who have been hospitalized and even died from being too strict on the babywise business.  This concerns me.  While I still love, adore, adopt and share my ideas of babywise..I also dont condone people starving their children and becoming CULT LIKE over it.  If you are intersted on reading how wacky the guy is who wrote the book and how he got kicked out of his church for his ideas and opinions stating that they were in fact biblical…check out these links.  It was disappointing to say the least.  BUT LONG LIVE BABYWISE because that book rocked my socks and helped me create a happy baby.  I am babywise and I dont regret it.  Although the author might need some serious help …dont be kooky like he is.

 This is the original statement by the Grace Community Church Elder Board from 1997

This is a web site examining Ezzo’s program

This is a Ezzo time-line from the same site

This is a popular blog that has an annual Ezzo week with lots of links to other stuff

This is a site dedicated to Ezzo’s side of the story

Enjoy =) (I personally havent looked through any of the sites in thorough detail but I plan to in the near future)

I just wanted to share my sadness from this weekend.  Saturday was Jordans first birthday, and due to the amount of errands I had to run I only spent maybe 2-3hrs with her all day.  I was okay with this because we had a nice party planned for her sunday and I knew she would get all the attention she needed for one day. 

Well first let me start off by saying that the second child definately gets shafted.  Not on purpose, but because financially its impossible to give the same amount of time, money and energy into 2 kids vs. the 1.  Maybe that would explain why Eddy doesn’t want anymore kids.

Regardless, here is my sad story.  I spent all day saturday preparing for her party..and all sunday morning.  I put Jordan down for her nap and go run more errands and come back to clean up and get ready.  She wakes up at 2pm covered in puke.  Not just spit up, im talking full on barf-o-rama.  My first instinct is that we over fed her for breakfast.  She had a lot that morning.  I blew off the fact I felt sick earlier that morning because that happens to me occasionally.  She barfs again at 2:30.  By this time Im telling everyone with kids not to come because she is barfing, but everyone says “No, its okay we dont care”.  Meanwhile im thinking in my head…If I came to a party with a puking kid…id be like PEACE OUT!!.  Anyway, everyone stayed.  I got sicker as time went on, Jordan hurled yet again.  I sped up opening gifts and cutting the cake.  Jordan didnt even get any.  She puked all over her pretty party dress and nobody got to see how cute it was. 

So I am sad because my babys birthday was ruined.  I was sick, she was sick and now Caiden is sick.  I slept 7hrs yesterday severely ILL and was up all night the previous night.  Last night I got up with Caiden at 1pm also violenty puking.   This morning they both get baths because of so much diarrhea and puke.  Everyone stay away from us!!  We are stank!!  No joke.

Prayers needed.

Most people who know me know how I feel about vaccines.  When I first had Caiden I was completely against vaccinations of any kind.  As he approached being one I decided to vaccinate one shot at a time over a long period of time.  Here he is  2 1/2 and still has just one shot remaining.  Jordan turns one saturday and after seeing this article, it makes me want to postpone the vaccines even longer.

I came across this link on the yahoo page and felt I needed to share it.   The video is 8 minutes, but is worth watching imo.  This matters, and too many parents just write it off as though doctors know what the crap they are doing.  HENCE homebirth being a better birth to me, and not vaccinating NOT being a completely dumb idea but both being a personal decision based on what a parents convictions are.  I believe there is way too much trust in our medical system.  I believe it helps, but I also believe they are money hungry and may not always consider what is the best natural way to deal with different circumstances.

 While Im not 100% against vaccines because I believe they do help, I am against the administration of the vaccines.  Why does a newborn need to be immunized against Hepatitis?  I mean seriously.  What is the rush?  I agree with what the lawyer says in the video about working out a schedule with your pediatrician that best suits your family.  For us it has been great.  We get one or 2 shots at a time…with a SEVERAL month break in between.  I dont want to overwhelm their poor little bodies with all these foreign drugs.  While im on a rant…have any of you even read what is in some of these vaccines?  Did you know they use aborted baby fetus’s and other animal parts to make some of these shots?  Probably not but then again….like I said…people have too much faith in PEOPLE.  And to me that is just scary.

I am on the fence with this…as much as I want to NOT vaccinate…I still do it.   Anyway, here is the link:

http://www.jacksonville.com/tu-online/stories/031108/met_255648501.shtml

Today is officially day 5 of Caidens Salmonella poisoning.  Now unfortunately I didn’t figure out that’s what it was until this morning but so far we are on a road to recovery. 

It all began last monday night when I was thawing out some chicken for dinner.  Caiden went to the sink to wash his hands as he always does after going potty.  Except this time it was different.  After realizing he was at the sink longer than normal, I look his way to and my surprise he is playing with raw chicken.  For all I know he tried to take a bite out of it.  I washed his hands immediately, explained what he did wrong and carried on with my life.  It wasn’t until thursday night that the fevers began and the salmonella began to make it’s presence known.

Now for those of you who may or may not know.  Caiden is potty trained with the exception of pooping.  We can’t get him to go anywhere but his diaper.  So you can imagine HOW many diapers I have changed in 5 days with him going as much as 6 times in an hour and YES, that means a new diaper, more diaper cream and lots of babywipes.  Now this isn’t happening only during the day, this is ALL night long.  He is pooping himself to death,  running fevers off the charts and this morning we have had a break through.  Only 10 bowel movements vs. the regular 50.   And fevers tapering.  Now I know this information isn’t even necessary for anybody but I am simply venting my brain because he has been causing much stress as you can imagine.   He is typically more needy than the average child his age and is 10 times needier when he isn’t well.   He is in his room screaming now as I type because I refuse to let him poop in his diaper again.  (he has gone on the potty 3 times today!!! yay!!!)  Anyway, life is tough being a mom.  And yet I want more kids.  What is wrong with me?